Book Recommendation: Gentlewoman: Etiquette for a Lady, from a Gentleman
I’ve just added this excellent book to the list of prizes that members of the Taking Epic Actions (TEA) Facebook group can win through participation, etc.
If you believe there’s room in your life to make improvements to your etiquette and to present yourself as a more polished person, this book will be beneficial.
Just think of it as developing new and better life habits by training (or retraining) yourself.
Ways this book can help
- Are you looking to draw a different type of circle of friends into your life?It’s a fact that we ultimately become most like the five people we spend the most time around. So how’s your social circle?
- Are you looking to attract the right type of mate?We increase our chances of attracting the right kind of mate based on how we carry ourselves and by that I mean, how others perceive us. But we have some control over that. How others see us is significantly impacted by what we project into the world. So be careful that you are advertising the best of yourself.
- Are you seeking to advance your finances, career, and business opportunities?People buy you and not your business product. They have to like you and feel you are a “good fit” to hire you. And they may even hire you for having the right technical skills (or because you were the candidate willing to accept the wages they’ve offered), but if you find you aren’t getting opportunities to advance into that higher-paying position, you may want to look at what you are presenting and how it’s being perceived.
So take a fierce look at how you are packaged. And by packaged, I don’t just mean your hair and clothes. By “packaged,” I mean your full presentation (speech, mannerisms, social media presentation).
Ask yourself, “What are they assuming based on what I am putting out there?” In the question, “they” doesn’t refer to just anyone. It specifically relates to people in a position to help you advance to the place you want and people who can help you achieve your goals.
Contrary to popular belief, “fake it til you make it” is not the best practice. Instead, do the hard work of developing these next-level lifestyle habits. Make a choice to evolve in the areas of your life that need improvement.
Your self-evaluation is not intended to make you feel bad about yourself. It is to make you lovingly look for areas of your life where there is room to make improvements. Just as I encourage you to give yourself kudos for even your smallest wins, I also encourage you to be your own best critic. Just don’t be cruel or mean.
Look at yourself with love and compassion. If you aren’t willing to constructively criticize yourself, you may be missing fantastic life opportunities. Your goal is to gently evaluate yourself then develop a plan to patiently and lovingly make incremental changes.
As women, we are all fighting these daily battles. This book is a prize that provides excellent instruction on how to win at both self-presentation and self-preservation.
By the way, I offer prizes in my TEA Facebook group to create some motivation. But ultimately members are encouraged to find internal motivations for adopting good life habits.
What were your thoughts/feelings when reading this post? What, if any, questions came to mind?
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